Okay guys, here is my hair when I started to using a temporary. Before then for the most part I had been wearing it natural, hot combed, and even hair extension - braided of course. In fact, I am going to have to find some of those pictures because in a sense that was a traumatizing lesson in it of itself. I mean, when you use hair extensions, you not only have to install them, you have to go to the store, decide which hair pack will achieve the most natural blend with your hair without having it look "fake", and then pay a foreigner for another foreigner's hair , all because you don't want your texture hair to be seen in its natural state. Or really because you were led to believe it was socially unacceptable and you bought in to it. Yeah, that was not a lesson in self-love. And to make matters worse, I personally had to braid my own hair because I could not afford to pay someone to put my extensions in my hair and my mother wasn't footing the bill. I can remember putting that nasty dead hair in my hair - it took three days, each time. And then sometimes I didn't want to wash the hair because it would get matted, so I had hair that had not been washed for weeks. Ouch! Image the thoughts a little girl has during all of that. I could not have been feeling good about myself . I think that really destroys some of the innocents, self-esteem, and courage of a child because the child really can't focus on being a child. They are always wondering about their hair, is it sticking out, that sort of stuff. But, there is an upside to this, eventually, I learned how to do braid extension hair and started charging other people , so whoopi, I guess.
